Do you have people in your life that you wish would just go away and leave you alone? Do you have friends and/or family who tell you what you're thinking before you say it (i.e., they say something that they know you're going to disagree with and then before you have a chance to open your mouth they say, "Oh, I already know what you're going to say" and then start arguing with you BEFORE YOU'VE SAID ANYTHING!). Do you know someone who reads your email and completely distorts what you were attempting to say? DO YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO SHOUTS AT YOU IN EMAILS? Do you know someone who is jealous of something you've worked hard to get?
Well, I have those kinds of people in my life these days and I don't want them around me any longer. Go away, negative jealous loud close-minded people. GO AWAY!
Sorry I'm not showing pix of weekend finds or writing about possessions but apparently my having material things has made friends and family members jealous. Apparently the fact that we have worked hard for everything we own and are proud of that is cause for others to feel they have the right to criticize us, mainly because their lives haven't turned out like they wanted. And I'm just supposed to understand and feel sympathy for their situation and listen while they blame everyone else BUT THEMSELVES.
Well, f**k you and the horse you rode in on. Oh wait, sorry, you don't have a horse because you didn't care for it properly and it died. But of course that wasn't your fault because you don't accept blame, you just dole it out. I need to remember that any problems I think I have should be of no concern to anyone since I have a husband and he has a job and so what problems could I possibly have?
So, even though these so-called friends (and family members) never listen to anything I might be able to slip into their one-sided bitch sessions, I'm going to say it again: GO AWAY!
Go Christine!!
ReplyDeleteYou said exactly what I want to say every freaking day. I hate those people. Unfortunately, most of them are my family.
I am with you on the one's who never take any blame for their own lives. It's like you say...Go Away!
ReplyDeleteaw yeah, I know exactly what you mean. Personal responsibility is not in some people's vocabulary. Keep your head up, don't let them get you down :)
ReplyDeleteThey are emotional vampires lol...
ReplyDeleteAnd I ban them from my life (regardless if they are related by blood or not) because life is too short to have the life sucked out of you before you've reached the end. ;)
Tell them to go f*ck themselves and change your phone number or stop taking their calls. If they knock on your door, there ain't no rule which says you have to open it. =)
Been there, and done exactly that.
For my own well being, I've had to close the door on a few relationships in my own life. I've never regretted it.
ReplyDeleteWhere family is concerned it's harder (especially inlaw family). That door can't really be closed all the way, but in those circumstances you can make yourself unavailable for abuse. That's what I've done, and it's worked out pretty well.
Our newest peeve is the people who get angry because we don't 'answer our phone'. Well, a lot of the time we're not home, and when we are, we screen. Sorry, but we're not slaves to the fricking phone and we don't have to answer if we don't want to (and maybe we don't want to talk to you to begin with). That's why they invented answering machines. Our choice.
We're not the types that have to have a phone stuck to our ear at all hours of the day. Never have been. We have lives.
Sorry, got off on my own little rant there. lol
I do understand where you're coming from!
I purged alot of those folks out of my life witht he big move overseas...but damn if the in-laws aren't much better. I get lot of insults disguised as compliments and alot of blank stares coz they don't unsderstand me. ALso, found out last week, that my FIL is WAY jealous of our house and garden and thinks we are 'too old' for such a large garden. Frick 'em all!
ReplyDeleteOh yes, I can relate. My oldest son called on Mother's day to say he needed to move home. Oh no, sorry, not an option. From that I received such a guilt trip. Stand your ground Christine and insert earplugs when necessary.
ReplyDeleteGet 'em Chris! No one should have room in their lives for blood suckers like that. I'm surprised they don't ask you for money too. If there's one type of person I can't stand, it's the ones that don't take the blame or responsibility for their troubles. And are surprised that there are consequences. Boy, you've really got be all roiled up! Kick those people to the curb! I feel so sorry for that horse though...
ReplyDeleteIt is so hard to stay positive when others around you are so negative. I tell my students (and they're only 3-4 years old) that "You're not whiners, you're winners!" And "You are the one responsible for change." I don't want them growing up believing their lives are the fault of someone else. So, go ahead and vent to us, we are your cyber shoulder to cry on, and sometimes you have to get it off your chest and have your say or you'll go crazy(ier)! Hang in there, Christine.
ReplyDeleteLiz
WORD!
ReplyDeleteYou took the words right out of my head before I could get them out of my mouth...well done.
-sarah
Those people sound like jerks. Don't let them get you down.
ReplyDeleteYou, my friend, have HUGE balls! You wrote the things I only dream of writing. I would bet money the person who is making you crazy reads your blog. Will they recognize themselves? Hopefully, the horse killer will. I hate to think too many of us have that on our list of misdeeds! Why worry with the whiners when you have friends who like the same things you like, can at least listen to your opinions without lecturing you (even though I can't think of anything you've said that I disagree with...I do love a liberal!), and won't leave you emotionally drained at the end of the day.
ReplyDeleteNow, take your big-ass balls and have a glass of wine!
Anna
Oh Honey, don't let anybody steal your joy.
ReplyDeleteGotta love a woman with cojones! Go, girl..people like those you mentioned don't belong in the categories of friend or family...those people are supposed to care for and support us, no matter what. Making us feel badly is _not _ acceptable.
ReplyDeleteF 'em! You go girl!
ReplyDeleteYou said what I've been feeling for ages. I have family members who are experts on every topic. Not only do they know what I'm going to say before I say it, they know what's best for me and how I should react in any situation. Nevermind that they are alcoholics who can't get their own lives together.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Carole~let the answering machine deal with them and get back to them when and if you choose to.
I think you are fabulous Gogie. I love you so much!
ReplyDeleteYou tell 'em sister!!! Make them gone!!!
ReplyDeleteWe've all been there I suspect, heck, I wonder sometimes if I'm that person to someone else, even though I try not to be (and hope I'm not). My 17 year old son is weary of my "take responisbility for your own actions and life" speech, but I think it's important enough to keep repeating.
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